Thursday, February 20, 2014

New Pictures...and more


Aaron is 8 1/2 months old now and he's crawling around like crazy and getting into everything. He started pulling up a lot too. In general, he's just getting very big! He's a major mama's boy right now...we feel attached at the hip! There's worse things than having a cute little boy hanging onto you all the time though. :)

So here are a few recent-ish pictures. 




And like I said, into everything!!!


Oh and here's my Valentine's Day gift from my man. ��

If everything continues to go well, Aaron will be a big brother sometime around early August. I'm about 16 weeks pregnant...surprise! I feel much better this time around...I was only really sick one day a few weeks ago and I was sick nearly every day for the first trimester when I was pregnant with Aaron. I'm still nursing Aaron (although he does eat some of what we eat...anything and everything I give him, so far) so it feels like I'm starving all the time! 

So anywho, there's a little update, and the big news. :)



Saturday, December 14, 2013

Aaron's Birth Story

Now that Aaron's six months old, maybe I should write about how he got here! If I can remember everything, in the right chronological order, anyway!

One day in early to mid May, I thought for sure my water broke. Turns out, embarrassingly enough, it wasn't my water...just a baby head on my bladder. I can't tell you how funny my husband thought that was! I was significantly less amused. This was about three weeks before I ended up having Aaron, and that's when I had my first exam from the midwife. She said then that I was 3cm dilated, 80% effaced, and she could feel the baby's head, and since we all thought it was my water breaking, she told me I'd probably be having the baby soon! (We realized it wasn't my water when a couple days went by and absolutely nothing happened...we weren't worried because you continually produce more amniotic fluid, so there was no chance of the baby running out, and we were careful to prevent infection, while we thought it was broken water!)

So anyway, that got me on a major high, because I really thought I was having a baby any day. Any stinkin' day. Aaaaannnnyyy day now...for three weeks! I went on like that for two weeks, and I'd have a few painless cramps every evening when I went to bed, but nothing serious. After two weeks of that, I started having crampy feelings one morning and got really excited! THIS is it! Well...out came the midwife again, she checked me again, and I was 5cm, 90% effaced, baby's head was RIGHT there and engaged....but then nothing else. The cramps went away again. They came and went for days and days. I had dilated all the way to 5cm without really having any painful contractions at all! Some of them were a little uncomfortable and they'd keep me awake sometimes, but nothing I'd consider really painful. (We decided later I have a high pain tolerance, I guess.)

At almost a week past my due date (which was May 29th,) I started some natural labor getter-goings. I took fenugreek, evening primrose oil, and ended up taking castor oil a couple days before I actually went into labor. I've heard horror stories about the castor oil, but it didn't really do anything to me...I'm so weird! I don't think any of that really did much.... I also walked. And walked. Not a mile or anything...more like four. For a few days. And nothing happened! The good thing (and somewhat frustrating, at that point,) is that natural things to get labor started just won't work if you're not ready to go into labor yet. It's not like medically inducing at all.

So, after weeks of dilation and cramps and impatient waiting, I woke up June 5th with something different. The midwife had told me that if I woke up with "contractions" that wouldn't go away, to take a shower and see if they went away then. I got up around 4am and got in the shower and had four of them in the 20 minutes I was in the shower. (Yes, I've been told I take long showers.) I went back to bed and laid there for a while and I was still having contractions but they weren't really timeable, because they weren't regular and I couldn't feel any kind of peak really. I was a little bit hesitant to call my midwife again, because I'd called her with false alarms a few times and I really thought this would be like the other times...they would eventually go away. In the meantime, Jacob had gotten up and went on to work...he asked if he needed to stay home, but I really didn't want him to stay home and then it be nothing again! (At the time he was working over an hour away.) I laid around til 9am or so and finally did call the midwife, after I'd had contractions every 5 minutes for an hour. She was surprised and said they (I had two midwives...the main one and an assistant) would be on their way soon. Since I wasn't going about this "right" (no textbook labor for me! I'd been in labor for 3 weeks already!) we had no idea what I'd do next...if I'd go really fast since I was already halfway there, or what! I was just sure that once they got there and checked me, I'd be all the way dilated and ready to go...the contractions I'd had for the past few hours were definitely different and more uncomfortable, though I still wouldn't call them really painful.

Well, once the midwives got there, got settled and moved in, and checked me, I was all the way to....SIX stinkin' centimeters! And then once everyone got there (midwives, mother-in-law, mom, and one of Jacob's cousin's wives) my contractions pretty much stopped. I'd have one every 30 minutes, if I was lucky. I kept on like that for a couple more hours...very irregular if anything. We were just having a party sitting around and talking and laughing and eating.  After a little while of that, the midwife checked again and I was 8cm and my water broke for real then. So we called Jacob and told him to hurry on home...now! (It had to be soon, right?!) That was around 1pm, June 5th. (He said he told his boss I was 8cm and my water broke and his boss said "you better hurry!") I guess he got home around 2pm (times are kinda fuzzy...) and still nothing. I was walking and going up and down porch steps and doing a little bit of everything to try to get this thing going...and nothing was happening! I still wasn't having regular contractions at all!

In the meantime, Jacob went and got some pizzas and we still just sat around having a big party, laughing and cutting up. I would have a contraction every now and then, and they were more uncomfortable, but still not horrid labor pains like I'd heard about. My midwife would watch me and could see when I was having one, but other than that, there weren't a lot of indicators to everyone else. I mean, I wasn't screaming or anything!

By about 10pm, I was all the way dilated and still didn't feel like pushing at all, but they had me start pushing some, to try to stimulate pushing contractions, I guess. (If I had it to do over, I'd have waited until the real thing...seeing as I still had so long to go. It really wore me out.) It wasn't too long before I was pushing my guts out about every 2 minutes...I did eventually start having regular pushing contractions. It started hurting more then, and that didn't go away! I pushed and pushed and pushed...and not much was happening. The midwife said I had an issue with a cervical lip, so she had to hold that back while I pushed. Ow. Like super ow. Once that was out of the way, Aaron got stuck behind my pubic bone. She couldn't really do much about that, so I changed positions a lot trying to get him under that. We finally got past that and I pushed and pushed and there still wasn't anything happening. She said there was some muscle in there that wasn't stretching like it was supposed to and they tried to stretch it while I pushed. Super Super Ow!

This whole time I was pushing my guts out, I was sitting up in our bed, with someone holding my legs up for me to push against. By the end, I was pulling on my mom, who was sitting in front of me, and Jacob's mom, his cousin's wife, Jacob, and the midwife were all rotating who would push against my legs. (The Amish assistant midwife was in the living room watching a movie and crocheting..LOL!) Apparently, I'm like super strong, and everyone was sore after my labor...my mom had marks on her hands from me grabbing her to pull! My wrists were hurting a LOT, because every time I pushed (every 2 minutes, if I was lucky) I would slide down, so I'd have to push myself back up. At some point, Jacob sat behind me for a long time and I'd sit back against him, so he'd pull me back up after every push. He was really sore the next day too! I'd read a lot about the advantages of different positions in labor, and I knew that sitting up in the bed wasn't ideal, but I couldn't really do much else. I tried hands and knees but that was excruciating and I absolutely could not push in that position. I also had to be in a position that offered the midwife easy-ish access, because she was trying to hold that muscle back while I pushed.

After pushing like this for so long (by now it was 3am or so) without getting anywhere, the Amish assistant midwife mentioned something about the hospital. I knew without a doubt that I did NOT want to go to the hospital and I think the first time she said it because she thought I wasn't giving it everything I had. She was wrong about that, for sure. Someone asked her if she was serious and she said something about "well, if she can't have it..." My main midwife didn't feel there was any need to consider a hospital...no one was in any danger (she kept monitoring the baby the whole time,) I was just exhausted! I knew what would happen if we showed up in the ER after I'd already been pushing for 4 or 5 hours and my water had been broken for 18 hours! I would have had a c-section for sure. At that point, everyone but my main midwife started to get a little concerned...I'd been at this for a long time, I was beat, and nothing was happening. She put me on oxygen to revive me a bit then. Everyone left my room and started praying and calling everyone we knew to start praying. While everyone was still out of the room, I was still pushing and my midwife called everyone and said they might want to come on in there now....she was seeing the head! It took about 20 or 30 more minutes (I think...?) before I got him out. Jacob caught him and it was so amazing...he was really excited! He'd been really concerned and just about couldn't handle seeing me like I was. Aaron was born at 4:54am, Thursday morning, June 6th. I tore a tiny bit and didn't need stitches...I just stretched too fast at the last minute... Turns out, Aaron had his hand up by his head the whole time, which is what made everything so slow and hard! Somehow, his elbow was sticking up too, because the back of his hand was up against his temple...figure that out! (Put the back of your hand by your head and see where that leaves your elbow. Yeah.)

Aaron didn't want to nurse much right away but he hasn't hardly stopped since. He was 7lb 13oz and 21 inches long.

I am so happy I had Aaron at home. As slow as I was progressing, I know I would have had "intervention" had I been in a hospital. Even though there was a time when I was beyond exhausted and couldn't see progression at all, I knew I didn't need intervention...I knew that I could do this. A woman's body was designed for this very thing, so I knew it was possible. I wouldn't give anything for the relaxed atmosphere we had here all day while we waited for my body to do it's thing. There was no tension to stall things (like I needed anything to stall anything!) and we had a lot of fun, just hanging around! With the exception of the last few, tough hours, we all laughed and cut up more than anything. Maybe this is TMI (but isn't that the definition of a birth story?) but during one of the checks to see about the cervical lip, someone said something really funny and I just laughed and laughed and the midwife said "oh, that helped!" It was just so low-key and happy and exciting! I am so thankful for my midwife and how she kept cool even when things went slow...we'd ask her how I was doing and she'd say "oh, there's progress..." Now maybe she couldn't see any progress and was just trying to make us feel better, but it worked! :) They ended up being at our house for about 20 hours or so.

So, labor was hard and long and hurt like crazy (at least the last few hours!) but I'd do it again in a heartbeat. Here at home, of course! :)

Monday, November 4, 2013

A Few Pictures

I found a blogger app for our iPhone so I can at least post a few pictures every now and then. I wouldn't expect long posts though, if I were you...typing isn't all that fun on here!!! 


That's it for now...all I have on here. Now that I know I can post from the iPhone, I'll try to get more pictures. 

Aaron is two days shy of 5 months, and no, I don't know how that happened! He's about 20 pounds already and is just the cutest thing EVER. 

Since the most common question seems to be "does he sleep through the night yet?" I'll answer that. He will, if I let him, but I try to wake him up for personal reasons. :) He is still completely breastfed    and will be for a while. 

I love using cloth diapers and can't believe how expensive "fake" diapers are! I do use disposables at night, so we do buy a pack every few weeks, but using them all the time sure would add up!

Aaron already sits up pretty good...I try to spend a lot of time sitting with him in the floor and he does well. I don't know how long it will be before he crawls, but when he's lying on his tummy, he already gets up on his knees and rocks. It's super duper cute. :)

That's it for now. Ttyl!

Friday, July 19, 2013

A Few More Pictures

3 weeks...

5 weeks...


Baby feet!
We're all doing great and Aaron just keeps getting cuter and cuter! He still pretty much just sleeps and eats but he has started smiling sometimes which is just really really adorable! 

My grandpa came to see us and meet his great-grandson...
And here is my grandpa holding me...24 years ago!
I really got a kick out of this picture...my dad and grandpa in the floor ogling over Aaron and talking baby talk!
We're pretty tickled right now. :)

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

My Guys

My guys! :) Aren't they just adorable?!

Aaron's a month old and we're all doing great. He's already up to about 12lbs, and pretty much just eats and sleeps!

I end up posting more pictures on Facebook these days, (it's easier than uploading pics for my blog now) so feel free to add me there to see more pictures!

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Introducing!!!

Aaron Lee Ellis!







He arrived June 6th, eight days after my due date. He was 7lb 13oz and 21 inches long. He was slow getting here and took an awful lot of work to get out! The short version of the story is that I dilated to 10cm with little pain or regular contractions but then I pushed every 2 minutes for 6 hours. I was in labor for about 24 hours, starting Wednesday morning and he was born at 4:54 Thursday morning. We had a homebirth and I'm really grateful for that...I really feel sure I would have had a c-section had I been in the hospital due to the length of my labor. I was completely exhausted by the time it was over and the midwives put me on oxygen for the last hour or so, to help me get through the last little bit. Turns out, he had his hand up by his head while he was being born, which definitely didn't help anything, and that was after I got past a cervical lip and a certain muscle that he had a hard time getting past. I'm doing pretty good now, and Aaron's great! 

So there's the latest update from the Ellis family! 

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Update..

Well, there's not much to update on right now, but I didn't want y'all to be freaking out because you haven't heard from me in a while! I'm 37 weeks along now, so we're just waiting for the baby to come now! It's getting more and more exciting, and we absolutely can't wait to meet our little one!

I'm still doing good...just getting bigger and bigger. I get tired a lot and I don't sleep well at night and I can't even roll out of bed without a lot of hoisting and maneuvering, but I guess I'll manage a few more weeks! My midwives came last week and everything looks great....baby's head down already. They'll come back again next week, since I'm getting closer....

I wasn't really planning on having a baby room, but as I started getting baby stuff, I needed a place to put it, and now I'm excited about our baby room! We had a spare bedroom, but it was pretty full...it was sort of a catch-all room for stuff that didn't have anywhere else to go! Jacob and I bought a new bed a few months after we got married (the best thing we ever did...besides actually getting married, anyway!) so our old bed went into the spare room, where all sorts of things got piled on and around it. I found a place for most of the stuff in the room (meaning I boxed it up and put it in our building outside...lol) and Jacob's brother took the bed so all I had left in there was a bookshelf and a small dresser. I cleaned out some of the dresser (my old, skinnier clothes that I soooo can't wear anymore) and put some baby stuff in there. One of Jacob's cousins brought over a crib and changing table for us to use, my granny got us a car seat and stroller, and I've gotten a few smaller things that have all gone in there now. My sweet husband has been trying to buy me more stuff to decorate the room with (matching crib set, etc) but not knowing whether there's a boy or girl tucked away in here creates a bit of a problem! We just can't find a lot of neutral stuff, so we'll be waiting on some of that. The baby won't notice for a while anyway! ;)

The room right now is baby blue, just what we randomly picked before we got married. I wonder if there's something to that? Anyway, Jacob told me if we have a girl, he'll repaint it for me. I'm telling ya....he's sweet!

I do plan to use cloth diapers and several people have given me diapers and covers and nifty things like that, and my mom is going to see what she has left from my two younger brothers, as far as diapers go. My mother-in-law pulled out enough newborn boy and girl clothes to get us by for a little while, as they'll be giving me a baby shower a couple weeks after baby gets here. We decided that would be preferable to having a shower beforehand...otherwise we'd have LOTS of greens and yellows!

I'll see about getting pictures of our house sometime...it hasn't changed that much since we moved in...just gotten messy at times. Right now there's laundry hanging everywhere because our dryer quit yesterday, in the middle of laundry....so you're not getting pictures today!!! I have a lot of fun keeping my own house, although right now I can't even sweep (we have wood or linoleum floors in our whole house) without getting winded. Good grief!

I guess that's it for now. I need to get home and start some bread, I think. I want to make some cinnamon rolls....mmmm.